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March 04, 2007

Brave New World

Two new things...

First, I got a Blackberry today and it has opened my eyes about how absolutely medieval my life has been. I held out for a good two years after iPods came out, and I held out as long as humanly possible for the Blackberry. And after both purchases I have immediately thought: WHY DID I WAIT SO LONG?

Second, I had a long conversation with Mr. Pilot today*, who pointed out that blogging about him without his knowledge was a really terrible thing to do.** When we first had the conversation about it and he showed irritation, I had a very "if you don't like it, deal with it" sort of reaction, and then tonight I had the opposite reaction and burst into tears (twice--it was very awkward) and decided that I was a very terrible person for doing it.

Now that I've had a couple of hours to think about it, I do think that I probably should have a better system for blogging about the men in my life. For instance, I went back and read all the emails that mention Mr. Pilot, and I realize that while very few of them are explicitly negative about him (rather, they make me look like a lovesick idiot who can't read any male signals), it wasn't really fair to be introducing him to my friends (who read the blog) without him knowing that I was writing about him.

It's one thing to write about guys who will never meet any of my friends, or to write about people who know I blog about them and like it (Mr. FWB falls into this category)--but what about people that I might want to have a meaningful relationship with? And how should I proceed now with Mr. Pilot? Should I even be writing this entry now that I know he doesn't like it when I mention him?

I had often been warned that my blogging style was going to get me in trouble--but it was usually in regards to being able to run for public office. Now I realize that it's so much more personal than that, and I'm left wondering how to make this right...

Option #1: Take down the whole website and start again at Write Again Soon, writing only things that are appropriate for audiences of all ages and eschewing any personal information. Boring, and who would read it?

Option #2: Take down the whole website and start a new, completely anonymous blog with the same type of content. The "writing it all down" part really is like therapy, and I would be sad not to do it anymore...but I would be sad to lose my loyal readers by switching everything up.

Option #3: Take down the entries with potentially awkward entries, and be forthcoming about my blogging with everyone from now on. Sigh, what a pain in the ass.

Option #4: Leave everything as is, and try to be more sensitive in the future.

I'm leaning towards #4, mostly because I'm lazy. But dear reader, if YOU were the person being written about, what would YOU want?***

*In the last couple of weeks we have decided to start again on a clean slate. A lot of that has been dealing with our past (why he didn't call, why I am mean and sarcastic), and it's weird to think that we talk now WAY more than we ever did...perhaps because I was always mean and sarcastic...

**He doesn't know the blog address, just that I posted the "open letter" and his response verbatim. He was NOT pleased at all.

***Should I give Mr. Pilot the web address and let him satiate his curiosity? Or is it better to just let it go? I can't decide.

Comments

Posted by: La at March 5, 2007 07:36 AM

Posted by: La at March 5, 2007 07:37 AM

Posted by: Mr. PHS at March 6, 2007 08:23 AM