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January 31, 2007
Mr. Pilot Responds
Ms. Write Again Soon,
[ X ] Even though you are smart, funny, attractive, and excellent in bed, I’m “just not that into you”. I would have called, but I feel sheepish that we’ve been dating for three months and I can’t be upfront about this fact . . . is the closest ‘choice’ though not entirely accurate.
You are definitely smart (even smarter than me and I’m wicked smart) and funny (see previous email), and attractive (wow) . . . beyond excellent in bed (mmm) . . .
I’m not sure that I see a serious relationship between us in the long term and I’m not sure that continuing a great sexual relationship in lieu of that is the best thing for either of us if we aren’t upfront with that.
Should I have been and adult and talked about this to you upfront: YES. Should I have not returned your calls: NO.
Very frankly, I wimped out and I hate admitting that. I don’t consider myself a wimp, but I do consider myself honest enough to admit when I’ve been ‘wimpy’. I should have brought it up instead of taking advantage of the aforementioned excellent sex.
I don’t really know what to say. If you want to talk I’m willing. If you don’t, I definitely, definitely understand. I am embarrassed (as I should be) by my actions (especially saying this in an email).
Mr. Pilot
Comments
Pathetic!
Posted by: Eagle Six at January 31, 2007 11:30 AM
I am sorry he turned out to be a Dud.
Posted by: La at January 31, 2007 11:39 AM
WAIT a minute. Did you actually SEND the open letter?! In its entirety!? And he responded with this???
Posted by: bad apologies at January 31, 2007 12:23 PM
In fact I did email the whole thing to him (using our actual names, of course). It was a strange thing, because last night was the first time when the phone rang and I didn't automatically wonder/hope that it was him (and it wasn't). So when I got this email today, I wasn't quite sure how to take it. Two weeks ago I would have been really upset. Not so much today.
Posted by: Ms. Write Again Soon at January 31, 2007 12:31 PM
Unconventional. So now we simply never speak to him again, right? I mean, we could transition to FWBs, but only upfront people are really deserving of that. Plus you were smitten. I say he's done with. But that is just me.
Posted by: bad apologies at January 31, 2007 01:17 PM
I hope you didn't respond to him. This is YOUR chance to finally leave him in limbo. I agree with Mr. BA - no FWB for this dude.
Posted by: pleasant_mornings at January 31, 2007 05:39 PM
