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November 27, 2006
Sick, Part II
First of all, a word to my dear readers. I *finally* fall madly, deeply, forever in love with someone and there is not a single peep in the comments? I wash my hands of you.
Secondly, the magic is over. All the freewheeling estrogen coursing through my veins on Friday had evaporated by Saturday morning, when I woke up with a distinct feeling of distaste for Mr. Bethesda. It was like night and day.
Friday: I think I want to have his babies.
Saturday: He would not give me enough attention once the kids were born.
Friday: I could easily pick up my life here and move to his permanent home in the Southwest.
Saturday: He doesn't ever want to do anything at night, which would make me too lonely in a small town.
Friday: He's beyond all the game playing.
Saturday: I need to see a little effort here.
Anyway, the arc was helped along tremedously by a FABULOUS date with Mr. Pilot on Saturday afternoon. We went to lunch, we went to the zoo, we briefly held hands, and he still hasn't kissed me. He revealed a startling knowledge of celebrity gossip that would almost certainly rival Ms. Maryment's (apparently, the pilots do a LOT of reading of People, Us Weekly, etc. while the autopilot is on), and yet also was able to hold an in-depth discussion of the Iraq war. He's a former Marine, which adds that little bit of military flair that I like, and yet manages to come off as a totally responsible, totally engaging sort of guy.
So, by Saturday night I was back to juggling several men--since I wasn't totally sure that I wanted to ditch Mr. Bethesda. After all, I don't get those *who-hoo* feelings too often and damn if they weren't a teensy bit nice.
But I digress.
Sunday morning Mr. Bethesda came over for a bike ride. I took advantage of my parents' Sunday morning religious fervor to meet him at the door half dressed, and we were, ahem, a little bit late leaving for our 30-mile ride from Bethesda to Old Town. (Note to self: do not engage in previously-alluded-to-activity prior to a long bike ride...no good can come of it.) Anyway, the weather was gorgeous, the bike ride was great, the lunch at The Chart House was fabulous, and the conversation at the table was enlightening.
Him: While I really like spending time with you, and I think you are a great person, I just don't see us having long-term romantic potential.
[Silence.]
Him: So? What do you think?
[Silence]
Him: I need a little feedback here.
Me: Strangly, I feel a huge sense of relief.
Actually, we had the best date so far--something about removing the 800-pound relationship gorilla made us get along much better. We ended on a "let's keep doing the casual dating thing--but let's also actively pursue other people" basis, kissed goodnight, and I was even a little giddy when I finally settled in for the night.
It might be the best break-up I've ever had.
(It was just icing on the cake when Mr. Doctor called later in the evening to make plans for later in the week. And it was like putting ice cream *on* the icing *on* the cake when Mr. Pilot called to say what a great time he had the day before, and would I like to get together sometime this weekend?)
I am a happy, happy girl today.
Comments
Really? Madly, deeply, forever in love with someone? Are you sure? I cite today's entry for my lack of response to the prior. :)
Posted by: bad apologies at November 27, 2006 10:05 AM
All guilt I was beginning to develop for breaking my New Years Promise to find you a date in 2006. You seem to be doing just fine on your own. Like Mr. BA, I was waiting to hear more abotu the undying love before commenting. In my experience when you truly feel strongly for someone, you usually don't blog about it. :)
Posted by: La at November 27, 2006 11:41 AM
Oops I meant to say, "All guilt I was beginning to develop for breaking my New Years Promise to find you a date in 2006 is slipping away."
Posted by: La at November 27, 2006 11:42 AM
"I just don't see us having long-term romantic potential". So cryptic. Did he offer any explanation?
Posted by: joshb at November 27, 2006 01:28 PM
Ok, ok, point taken about my lack of long-term emotional involvement. Still, the *next* time I get all bubbly and gooey about a boy, it would behoove you all to respond with more than a "wait and see" attitude. After all, I check my comments compulsively, and how will I know if you want to hear more about things (like breast massage) unless you tell me?
And, yes, there was a long conversation about why we weren't good as a couple. Although, he wasn't able to specify--it was more of a general feeling (which I totally get). And truly, I was immediately relieved to just get it out there. It made him a nicer person, and I was able to relax and actually enjoy our time together.
There was also an amusing exchange where he worried that my "loose" habits would make me less desirable to men, and I got to set him straight on women's empowerment issues. Good times were had by all.
Posted by: Ms. Write Again Soon at November 27, 2006 01:52 PM
Whew!?! I'm exhausted just reading about the juggling. Of course that doesn't mean I'm not dying for additional details. And I *love* that you set him straight on his apparent double-standards regarding "looseness."
By the way, with all the various professions - doctor, military, pilot, etc - don't you think it's time for a fireman???
Posted by: ada at November 27, 2006 03:43 PM
He did NOT comment on your "loose" habits!? Your loose habits only come out with loose men! [Okay, maybe they come out with all men.] Still, I'd tell him to worry about his double standards habits being a disadvantage with women.
As for JoshB, its just that "He's not that into you" thing, right? I'm not that into lots of boys, but it wouldn't behove them for me to say "You're too wussy," "You're too flaky," and "You're too hairy." These are some of the reasons, but it is the whole package that we either crush on... or don't.
Fireman!
Posted by: bad apologies at November 27, 2006 04:33 PM
I agree, the previous entry deservedly got it's dramatic pause. And look at the flurry you have now! How is NaNoWriMo progressing? How do you have time to man juggle with the end of month frenzy? I am very proud of your 30 mile bike ride! You will have to come up and try out this section of the c&o canal path. Especially if "springtime in winter" continues :) If you can do 30 miles, you could just go the other way and bike from Bethesda up here!
Posted by: Red at November 27, 2006 08:34 PM
