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April 28, 2006
Insta-Poll
How do we feel about "friends with benefits"? Just this morning I was made a very nice offer, and I'm just not sure how to respond. On the one hand, I am very tempted. On the other hand, well, I am VERY tempted.
Here's the email train: (Parents, avert your eyes.)
(Deleted chatty introduction) So... how would you feel about a "friends with benefits" arrangement between you and me?(Follow-up email that crosses paths with my response below) PS. I realize that my question is not the ideal question to ask an intelligent, sexy, witty, caring girl like yourself, and I hope you do not take offense to it.
(Deleted chatty response) My initial reaction to your very lovely offer is "I can't believe you are sending emails with the term *friends with benefits* from your work account." My second reaction is *hmm, interesting*. Call me to discuss. There are terms to work out, you know? Such as, how often can I expect you to put out?
You're funny. I like you! :)
It's true. Not only am I an "intelligent, sexy, witty, caring girl", I'm also quite amusing at times. And I'm also a [obscenely inappropriate sentiment deleted here to preserve my chances for a successful run at the Presidency].
Thoughts, dear reader?
Update: In a strange turn of events, I just got a voicemail from Mr. Border Collie (which I will not return because I'm a mean and shallow person). I must be sending out some sort of vibe.
Comments
WOW!
Are you saying you haven't said yes yet?
Aside:(I didn't know you were considering a bit for the White House. Is all of this about a "friends with benefits" proposal just a ploy to distract us all from some new "Big Idea"? You cunning female, you)
Posted by: mandy at April 28, 2006 10:36 AM
Based on the conversation you outlined above, it appears to me that this gentleman is a virtual stranger. Can you be "friends with benefits" with a stranger? Do you have to be friends first?
Yes, I raise more questions than I answer.
Posted by: Lauren at April 28, 2006 11:36 AM
I think the tough question is, would you be satisfied with a "friends with benefits" relationship? Would you keep dating other folks? Would the Mr. in Question? Would that be OK with you? If it would be, then consider it.
However, if you would want this Mr. to graduate from FWB to BF, then I would say no, don't consider it. Negotiate up. If you're worth shagging, why aren't you worth dating?
Posted by: Elizabeth at April 28, 2006 04:09 PM
I heartily agree with elizabeth -- my experiences in this area have never ended well. And to just ASK???
Posted by: jess at April 28, 2006 05:11 PM
I realize I was assuming a lot by using "Mr." as an address. Forgive my gender-based assumptions.
Posted by: Elizabeth at April 28, 2006 07:06 PM
I'm pro FWB so long as both parties are not in situations where things could get Very Fucked Up. Then again my recent attempt at FWB failed very miserably.
Posted by: KT at May 1, 2006 12:43 PM
Posting not working. This is a test.
Posted by: mr. bad apologies at May 10, 2006 07:16 PM
Posting not working.... going to try it in chunks...
I'm a proponent of FWBs.
Posted by: mr. bad apologies at May 10, 2006 07:18 PM
There was a Mr. I liked, but it was clear he Just Wasn't That In To Me.
Posted by: mr. bad apologies at May 10, 2006 07:18 PM
So we had occasional rendezvoused.
Posted by: mr. bad apologies at May 10, 2006 07:20 PM
The only downside was they weren't as often as I needed. That eventually ended, but ne'er a tear was shed. I have since moved on to another. He appears to want an upgrade, so I'm explicit on a regular basis that this would not happen, and that the FWB was his idea. I, alas, am JNTITH. I'm still dating, so is he. Best idea: get two FWB, introduce them, and then have an OWB. :)
Posted by: mr. bad apologies at May 10, 2006 07:20 PM
God that SUCKED. And then I got scolded for trying to post too much. I hate this Internet.
Posted by: mr. bad apologies at May 10, 2006 07:21 PM
