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March 07, 2005
Basic Human Needs - Affection
Fundamental | Being | Having | Doing | Interacting |
affection | respect, sense | friendships, | share, take care of, | privacy, |
Now we get to the interesting stuff. Do I have physical and emotional affection? Clearly, I am less than fulfilled in this area, as compared to subsistence and security. Let me count the ways:
Well, first off, I have to admit that I have the opportunity to receive respect and generosity in my current situation. My classmates are wonderful people (well, most of them) and I feel lucky to have made such good friend with a number of them. In addition, I have a strong group of friends from my other lives (high school, two previous jobs, etc.) plus a family that provides me with ample emotional affection.
Second, I often get to express my sense of humor (and this, I suppose, results from a sense of security, freedom, and creativity), and take great pleasure in the humor of my friends and family. In fact, I was lying awake laughing out loud last night, remembering a funny thing that my sister had done once. I love when things stay funny years down the road.
As for physical affection…well…let's just say the well has been dry for a while. In general, I'm okay with the idea of not dating anyone (or having wild hook-ups with Swedish strangers). On the other hand, I'm holding out hope that my love life will pick back up again when I come back to the
"Relationship with nature" is also listed above, and I'm not quite sure how it's related to affection, but whatever. The weather lately has been so snowy and wet that I have shirked my commitment to go outdoors. The most I get these days is a 10 minute walk down the hill when I miss the bus (I can catch the bus down two stops down at Willy:s, so it's a nice opportunity to stretch my legs instead of waiting in the bus vestibule). Sadly, it doesn't look like it's going to warm up anytime soon, which is VERY, VERY bad. Staying inside has placed me near the kitchen. In the last month I have gained 4 pounds and my face is VERY, VERY fat. I won't even describe the rest of me. As a result, the possibilities of physical affection are even more remote.
So, to sum up, I need to get my act in gear. I need to get outside more, which will help me be more active, which will get me out of the kitchen, which will make me more attractive, which will get me more men. Ahh, men. It's hard to generate that much enthusiasm for cats.
